OK~ We all know that teens turn 18 and voila~ We all expect them to act like adults, be an adult, be responsible like an adult, BUT~ as a Mom to a 19 1/2 year old I can tell you that it does not work this way! This young adulthood is a process in itself! As a Mom of younger children told me last week, "You can't just toss 'em out to the wolves!" Well, I thought of her comment and as a Mom I could not do that.
Our almost 20 year old has been responsible in regards to paying the bills that he has, keeping a job,
doing some laundry, and sleeping in his bed! It's taken some organization on our part,~ locating envelopes, addressing envelopes (don't know why they don't teach that in school anymore), and where to keep personal documents, such as birth certificates and the like.
Blaine grew up in the era when it just became the "thing" when each child had to get something for every little thing they participated in. And most of you know, this Mom has never agreed with that process. And parents made sure there kids schedules ( and many still do) were packed to the brim! This Mom never jumped on that bandwagon either. I also refuse to be the "helicopter parent" as I firmly believe that kids and adults of all ages learn from mistakes that are made. We limited activities- orchestra, scouting, voice lessons, and church activities kept him busy. He turned out OK~ I think!
Fast forward to young adulthood and most of these young adults have no clue how to manage "down time." The peer pressure is still overwhelming, at almost 20 years old! In Iowa things are fairly quiet compared to a larger city. Young adults do not have a calendar plastered full of activities or Mom and Dad insisting that they partake in such and such an activity. I do believe that kids need to be a part of something (extra curricular activities are good) but they can become too hectic for any family to function. It's interesting to watch as our oldest son ventures into adulthood. He has had many trials and tribulations along the way, but with a few prayers, I do believe this young man is going to make it!
I think I babbled enough about these young adults....It's been a journey. So, what age is considered an adult? 18, 19, 20, 21 or NEVER~ And face it, we all probably know some adults that have never really grown up~ After All, It's All In a Mom's Day, Right?