Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Life Is What You Make Of It: Live Your Life, Not Someone Else's

OK~ Today I am reminded that it's all about priorities. Life can get really crazy at times and toss in a spouse that works the shift that others don't want to work. My husband has worked nights for several years. He has chosen to work those hours and he likes what he does.

Just this morning I came across a statement on social media that went something like this. "You work those hours, you don't have a life." This got me thinking. I think it's fair to say that when I start thinking, I really start thinking!

Life is what we choose to make out of it. For our family, travel has been a high priority through the years. Sure, we could have chosen to stay home and lounged around on new furniture, but we chose to get out and explore. Just the other day our 23 year old son said to me, "Mom, I really never appreciated all of the places I got to visit while growing up, but I do now!" Yes, he gets it! And no, we have never invested in "new" furniture, as 80% of it has been used or slightly used.

My husband and I do make it a point to get to our local YMCA over the lunch hour as much as we can. The YMCA is quiet and we get our exercise in- makes for a win, win situation. Some folks may say, "That's not living your life." But again, it's all about priorities. What is important to you, may not be important to the next person.

In the long run, it's all about you living your life. It's not about someone else saying, "They don't have a life, as they work those hours." It's true, families do have to make some sacrifices, but could someone enlighten me and tell me what career is out there where you don't have to make sacrifices? It's realistically not feasible for most parents to attend every single sporting event, music event or competition their children are in. One of us tried our best to attend our kids' extra curricular events through the years, and did make it to most. And it's fair to say that people thought we had "weird" hours of quiet at our home. But hey, when someone in your home works nights, they do need their sleep.

What's important to you? Happiness comes to all of us in different ways, shapes, and forms. We must be doing something right in this house, as we've been married 27+ years and we keep moving forward. Life is not all roses and sunshine, there are a lot of ups and downs. Believe me, we've had our share. We've pulled up our bootstraps more times than I care to count, but hey, we are making the best of every single day and we do have a life that we enjoy! After All, It's All In a Mom's Day, Rig


  1. You are right that every family has to make sacrifices of some sort, regardless of what shifts the parents work. I am very thankful that we got to travel a lot as a family. It's fun to hear that it meant a lot to your son also. Cheers to 27 years of marriage (and more)!

  2. We have allways had odd hours through the years, some by choice some not.
    We havent done alot of traveling, at least not more than being away under 24 hours (BTW the fair and the race were a blast) I have chosen to do rescue- and we do it out of pocket. There are times I wish we could go somewhere, do something different, but then a cat finds a new home we have socialized or the purrs and headbtts change my mind.
    I guess it all comes down to choices, and no one can really say one way is better or worse than another.
    I think we all have regrets too- we wish we had traveled, or had new furniture, or whatever. The grass as they say seems greener on the other side. We see others doing things and think 'if only I could do this or that I would be happy" But, if we think about it, we generally are happy where we are maybe not all oof the time, but most of the time and thats a whole lot more than some have been given.

    1. And you have your passion- recuse, now that is cool! We all have choices and that is what makes our world go round, once we get over that grass is always greener thing. Hey, glad you enjoyed the races and the fair.

  3. Kudos to you guys for doing one what makes you happy! The older I've gotten the more I realized that you are he only person that lives your life therefor you are the only one that should be making decisions on how to live it! Let us not throw the first stone!


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