OK~ So... we have a new school year in the works and it truly breaks my heart that all forms of bullying have already kicked into high gear. My personal Facebook feed has been filled with all forms of bullying and cyberbullying. Most have sadly ended with young people taking their lives.
Think about this. If you witnessed a young person being beat up by another person would you take action or watch? It's became obvious to me that we have way too many people that want to watch this horrible type of behavior and it makes my stomach turn. We have to talk to our kids and let them know that it is ok to stand up and do the right thing.
A few years ago I was driving my car on a side street near an elementary school. The school day had ended and kids were walking home from school. I came upon a young student walking and noticed an older student pushing the younger student. I watched and noticed that the bigger kid was not letting up. I pulled the car over and noticed that other people were driving by and looking at what was happening and continued driving. I marched out of my car and literally pulled the older student off of the younger student. I then marched both of them into the Principal's office, which was two blocks away. Sadly... I was told, "This happened after school, we cannot help, but will see what we can do." I left.
I have a deep regret today. I should have stayed and made sure action was taken. My gut has told me for several years that both were allowed to leave and that younger student was bullied more and possibly due to my actions. I also wish I would have called the police department, as no child should have to endure what I witnessed.
Bullying is a learned behavior. I challenge parents to step up to the plate and take action! It's not ok for your child to hit or continually push another child. I have seen parents encourage ongoing behavior as such and I don't like it. I can also tell you that our younger son was bullied and by 6th grade, he had, had enough! A fellow student made a derogatory remark to our son about his mom (ME) and our son flattened the kid. This was also the same student that had continually pushed him in the hallway at school. He, of course was suspended for two days, due to no tolerance rules. My husband and I were very proud of him and guess what? He was no longer bullied and thankfully he did not turn into the bully.
So.... How will you make a difference in the 2015- 2016 school year? From experience... I can tell you, that your kids need to be taught to be able to stand up for themselves. If they do not, who will? After All, It's All In a Mom's Day, Right?